For most people who are in that situation, it takes other people to tell them that there is something wrong. Most stressed people are in denial. Some have been so used to being in that state that they have a hard time making the change for themselves. Open your eyes to the signs of stress. Learn to listen to advice, especially from people who care for you. Look in the mirror and if you are not happy with yourself, you have to do something about it. You have to see the problem before you can solve it